Number 1, Go out and do something once a week that you haven’t done before.
We as men, are creatures of habit and it’s real easy for us to fall in a rut of always doing the same things or always eating at the same restaurants. Technology makes finding new things to do really easy. For example, use Facebook Events to find stuff going on in your town. You can filter by area and whether you’re looking for activities for kids, nightlife, arts and music. I’ve found some pretty cool new places around town by finding local tribute bands to go listen to. I saw an awesome Pink Floyd tribute band at one of the big wineries in Temecula and it was a really cool show. They even brought smoke machines and lasers to shoot over the crowd. You can also use Yelp to find new places to eat, new breweries, wine bars you never knew existed, or you can search by what type of food you’re looking for. You can read some reviews and look at photos of the food they serve and any indoor or outdoor space they might have.
Number 2, Write down a list of things you’re thankful for.
Try this.. Write down one or two things every day on a piece of paper for the next couple weeks and keep the list somewhere in your home where you can see it every day. And every day, I want you to add something to it, at least one thing every day. After about two weeks or so, you’ll have a pretty good list of things you’re thankful for and since you see it on a daily basis, these things are now top of mind and you can focus on them instead of focusing on any problems or negativity that might be going on. We tend to not focus on the good things we have going because it’s usually not very dramatic, but once you start to realize and list out all of the good you have in your life, you start holding your head up higher.
Number 3, Work on your social ability and engage a stranger.
This kinda goes hand in hand with number one by getting out more and doing new things. Chat up some people at the new place you’re at. Be friendly. Engage the grocery store clerk. Engage your server at the restaurant you’re at. Ask questions. If your server has pink hair, that’s pretty unique so ask about it. Compliment them on something. So,I love doing this personally, I love asking servers what they’re “thing” is. Especially if they have an interesting look or if they come across as intelligent or really well spoken. You’d be surprised how many people in the service industry are in that industry because it opens up their schedule to do the real thing they’re passionate about. And, these people want to talk about their thing. You’ll meet artists, actors, band members, photographers, writers and young entrepreneurs hustling their faces off to get their new idea out to the world. There are so many interesting people with amazing stories out there. All it takes is simple friendly engagement to get the ball rolling.
Number 4, Try a new hair style.
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Number 5, Clear the clutter.
Clear the clutter from your wardrobe, your car, your bathroom, your desk or work area and I also want you to make your bed every single day. This doesn’t mean making it perfect, but pulling up and straightening the sheets and blankets and stacking the pillows to make it look decent and clean. You could have freshly washed everything, but if all your sheets & blankets are in a messy wad, it just appears dirty. I read something once that the simple act of making your bed every morning is a success trait and sets you up for success since you already experienced accomplishments early in the day. But even with that aside, it’s just more inviting to be in a room with a made bed. This also gets you bonus points if you have a guest coming over.
Number 6, Save some money.
For the next 30-60 days, really watch your spending and tighten up what you’re actually spending money on. Make a list every day of where money went that day and how much of it went. This gives you just a little bit of structure and something to think about every day and it’s really eye-opening at the end of the month to see some of the unnecessary things you spent money on. Also, if you’re able to stick to it and save a bit, this is another way to pat yourself on the back for having accomplished something. Now, I’m not necessarily saying you need to make this a complete lifestyle change, but just ease into it a little bit for the next 30-60 days.
Number 7, Let go of negative people.
This one is a two-parter; let go of negative people and toxic relationships in your life and reach out to or try to reconnect with positive people or more successful people you might know. What’s the saying..? You become the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. If I didn’t get that quite right, feel free to write the correct term down in the comments. If YOU are the most positive of your closest circle of friends, I hate to say it, but they might be dragging you down or at least not encouraging you to do more or better things. Try to find and connect with people outside of your immediate circle who are doing great things and spend some time with them.
Look, I’ve said it a thousand times and it’s the entire premise of this channel.. My friend, you’re only maybe 45 years old. You’re not dead yet. You have half your life left to do whatever you want. And, half your life up until this point, you were a kid and couldn’t really make your own decisions. If you’re in your 50’s like I am, unfortunately, you’ve probably lived more time that what you have left, so what are your triumphs? What do you want to accomplish? What’s your wisdom? Listen gentlemen, you’re at a point in life where your confidence comes from knowing that you’re living life well and doing things that make you happy. If you’re not happy with something or lack confidence in certain areas, work on it, change it. You have that power. Live well gentlemen. Thank you very much for watching and I’ll see you soon.