Welcome fellas. Today, I’d like to dive into what might be a very interesting topic, and that’s the concern a lot of men have about ‘looking gay’ if they start dressing better. Now, before you get offended, stick with me for a few minutes. So quick sidebar, it’s been brought to my attention a few times recently that there are actually a few women that subscribe to this channel and watch my videos, so I wanted to recognize the ladies and say thank you and I appreciate you being here.
Okay, I’ve been thinking about how to make this video for a little while now. It actually stems from another video I made, which you may have seen, called ‘style mistakes older guys make trying to look youthful’. That video took off and went kinda viral and in case you haven’t seen it, I’ll drop a link up here. The comments I received on that video were actually pretty shocking. I had no idea that video would trigger so many guys, but I think the issue is that a lot of those guys are seeing themselves as the ‘mistake’. And look, we’re not curing cancer over here, we’re just talking about clothes. And all I’m trying to do with every video I make is provide suggestions and alternatives to help guys look better and feel better.
So, a lot of the comments I got revolved around guys either saying they don’t care what other people think of them and that I dress gay. So, let’s address the gay thing right now. When people call me gay in the comments, they’re obviously hoping it’ll hurt somehow. The thing is, calling someone gay doesn’t carry weight anymore. My reaction is usually, ‘Thanks for the compliment, but no, I’m not’. I very much like women. And, just so we’re clear with my stance on all this, love is love my friends. Some of the coolest, happiest and most genuine people I’ve ever met are gay.
So, how does paying attention to the way you look somehow automatically indicate that you’re gay? I just don’t get it. And, if you’re starting to dress better, why would you even be concerned about it? If you’re single and trying to date women, that’s a way better place to spend your mental energy. There’s a lot of competition out there. I think the general consensus would be that professional athletes, like football players are pretty manly, right? These guys absolutely care how they look and they spend ridiculous amounts of money on their clothing and grooming. To me, it’s a self-respect thing. Look, I have a lot of confidence in a lot of areas of my life. And paying attention to how I present myself doesn’t mean I’m looking for approval from anybody else. It just means I care about myself enough and those around me enough to give a little effort.
Maybe it’s a feminine thing? Please, leave me a comment and let me know what your take is on all this. Maybe it’s more a concern of, ‘if I wear nicer shoes I might look feminine’.. Really? Do you see how ridiculous that sounds? Listen guys, like I’ve said before, if you’re happy with what you’re doing, that’s totally cool. But if you default to saying you wear whatever you want because you don’t care what other people think, while I respect the attitude, go ahead and wear a purple tutu to the job-site tomorrow. Or wear a garbage bag to the office. Oh, and by the way, if you really do wear a tutu, upload a picture somewhere and drop a link to it down in the comments so we can see it. Or send me a DM on Instagram. That would be awesome!
Look, the fact is, men are just as manly as we’ve always been. But more and more men today are just taking better care of themselves. They’re dressing better, grooming better, cutting their fingernails more often, getting regular haircuts and even taking care of their skin. Now, you might not be into it, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong or feminine or gay to want to take care of yourself. Like I said earlier, there’s a lot of competition out there and if you have an advantage over the next guy, you win.
So look, I think the point I’m trying to make here is dressing better will not make you look gay or straight or anything. Dressing better will only make YOU look better and feel better. So fire away, I’d love to hear your thoughts down in the comments. Thank you very much for spending some time with me today and if you haven’t already, I hope you’ll consider subscribing to my YouTube channel because I’m here twice a week. Anyway, I’ll see you very soon with a brand new video and until then, take care of yourself.