Today we’re talking about some of the first things women notice about men. In doing some of the research for this video, I read a quote from a woman who said it like this; “You can tell exactly what a guy wants in life by his shoes”. Now, before you jump on your pedestal and say women are shallow and all they want is a guy with money or good looks and they don’t want regular guys. But in my humble opinion, you’re wrong. You can’t call her shallow because it’s not her fault that some guys just don’t care how they present themselves to the world.
Taking pride in yourself is 100% up to you and you can’t blame her because you didn’t put in any effort. Feel free to hide behind the excuse that “real men” can wear whatever they want and “real men” don’t care what women or anyone else thinks. While I do somewhat understand that, if you want to be in a relationship and you’re currently not, that type of mentality needs to shift a little bit my friend because you don’t get to complain about not having a lady friend if you’re not willing to put in some effort.
If you want to find someone that’s into you for exactly who you are, because trust me, she’s out there. But YOU’RE unable to show her the real you because maybe you lack some confidence or have some insecurities, guys, that’s not her fault and it’s unfair to lump all women into the same category. Look, I’ve had plenty of comments on other videos from guys that say; they don’t care what anyone things of them, and real men this, or real men that, so if the kind of subject matter in this video offends you, I’ll just see you in a few days for a different video topic. But since you did click this video, I’ll assume you’re interested in learning a few things that maybe you didn’t already know. So I’ll just leave everything else right there, and let you know once again that I’m glad you’re here.
Men are simple when it comes to first impressions. Our checklist is pretty small compared to most women. You might drive a Lamborghini but if you’re insecure and lack self-confidence and behave poorly, she won’t care how much money you have. Most women want to feel turned on, attracted and aroused by the way you interact with her and how you make her feel. Focus on that because that’s where the power is.
Now, there’s the physical attributes like your outward appearance and the clothes you’re wearing, but there’s also other signals she’s picking up on like Confidence. There’s lots of good-looking guys who aren’t in relationships because they’re lacking self-confidence. Maybe these guys avoid eye contact or can’t hold a conversation, but if a woman is interested in you, she’ll try to get your attention. If you don’t act, she might move on. But she might make her way over to where you’re standing in hopes that you’ll talk to her. If you still don’t, she might even start a conversation with you. If you come across as shy or insecure, it’s like you’re telling her you’re not good enough for her. Even if you’re the hottest guy in the room, she won’t waste her time on you and she’ll go talk to the average-looking guy that can carry a conversation and makes her feel sexy and desired.
The next thing women notice is your Clothing. Here’s another quote I read recently, and the woman wrote; “Women care far less about natural appearance than they do an overall “look.” Like, you can be pretty average looking, but put yourself together well, and you’re a heartthrob. Also: you can tell the difference between the men and the boys mostly in how much care they put into actually purchasing a decent shirt that fits them correctly”. Guys, you have got to take pride in your appearance and that’s why this blog exists, to help you look better, fell better and have more confidence. You don’t need to go out wear suits every day, but you must be willing try something beyond the bare minimum. You also don’t need to be the hottest guy in the room, so let that go.
The next thing women first notice about men is their Grooming habits. This includes your skin condition your haircut and if you have facial hair, how well-groomed it is. Yes, this also includes your nose hair, eyebrows and ear hair. Women want to know that you’re making the best of what you’ve been given and not using it as an excuse. You look at yourself in the mirror every single day, so there’s really no excuse to have your nose hair creeping out or super long and scraggly eyebrows. If you have a beard, most women like to see it trimmed or at least managed on a regular basis. Which is a great Segway because this article is brought to you by one of the best grooming tools I own, Brio.
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Next thing women notice about men is your Social status, your manners and how you treat other people. If you’re rude to service staff at bars and restaurants or customer service workers and if you place yourself above them and go out of your way to talk down to them, chances are she’ll be completely turned off by that. Make it a point to be kind to people first. If you’re wronged, you have the right to stand up for yourself, but do it in a respectful manner. You’ll find that resolutions come easier, and more likely to go in your favor if you’re respectful and don’t draw a hard line in the sand.
This next one is important and it’s that Initial eye contact. How do you respond? Do you look away like you’re embarrassed you got caught looking, or do you stay engaged and smile? Is she still looking? If you notice her looking at you again and smiling, and you take the opportunity to go over and talk to her, she’ll be drawn to your confidence because you did what a lot of guys are too uncomfortable to do, and that’s actually come over and say hi. If you know that you’re good enough, women will notice it.
Next is your shoes. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again.. women notice your shoes. Just like the quote I read earlier in this video; “You can tell exactly what a guy wants in life by his shoes”, wearing nicer shoes goes a long way and says a lot about the kind of man you are. I’m not saying you need to wear a costume or represent yourself falsely, but put in more effort than the bare minimum and you’ll see the benefit. Because if you don’t care to put in just a little effort, and that’s the first impression and the message you’re sending, you can’t blame her for reading your message that you don’t care. Because if you don’t care about yourself, what else in life do you not care about? Don’t send that signal.
Next up is your greeting and your handshake. Are you limp wristed with no grip, or do you shake her hand with confidence and adequate pressure while maintaining eye contact and genuinely smiling at her? This is also her opportunity to feel your hands. I realize there are a lot of us that work with our hands and some who think it’s “manly” to have cracked or calloused hands, but most women don’t want those hands touching the rest of her body. At least clean your fingernails and maybe even use a little hand lotion before you go out. So look, there was a period there for me for about 20 years or so when I worked in manufacturing and raced cars on the weekends where my hands were a complete wreck. And I remember being told on many occasions by my wife that she wished my hands looked and felt better. Take note gentlemen, it’s not always about you.
The next thing women notice first about men is their Body language. Women notice how men carry themselves just like we notice how they carry themselves. We notice things like elegance, poise, confidence. So, if your body language is showing you as less important than everyone else in the room, she’ll see it and make a decision on whether or not she wants to talk to you. Stand up straight and sit up straight, don’t slouch. Claim your space and carry yourself with confidence my friend.
Last, but not least thing women notice about you is Your Smile. Smile genuinely and often. If you’re insecure about your teeth, there’s a lot of options out there for you. Personally, I was in braces for 6 months a few years ago in my mid-40’s because I wanted to fix my smile. At that age, I didn’t need full bite correction or anything, I just wanted my smile to look better and short-term braces was the quickest option. You can also do the clear aligner trays. They work, but they can take up to a year or two. If you’re insecure that your teeth are stained yellow, go see a dentist for a whitening treatment. You have options and the long-term benefits are worth it.
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