Okay, let’s jump right in because your 30’s are a very important decade. And in a lot of ways, your 30’s are your ‘defining’ decade. Here’s some numbers; In 2019, there were approximately 328 million people in the United States. And over 13% of those people, over 43 million.. are in their 30’s. Now listen closely, studies have shown that 80% of defining moments in your life happen by the age of 35. This essentially means that 80% of the decisions you make that define your life happen in your 30’s.
Don’t be defined by what you didn’t do.
Now, that seems like a lot of pressure, but look, the first thing is; do not be defined by what you didn’t do, what you didn’t know or what didn’t work. If you try something and it fails, or if something in your life fails, it failed. That’s all. You’re not a failure because of it. Please let that sink in. The time to decide your life’s path is right now because you have the energy and some time. Your brain also starts to rewire itself from childhood in your 30’s making it more difficult to change something about yourself. That’s why older people are so resistant to change and don’t adapt to new things or ideas as quickly like technology for example.
Quit bad habits.
Next is bad habits like smoking. If you smoke, you need to stop and you know it. When you’re young and healthy, you think you’re invincible and that you’ll quit “one day”. But one day ends up being 25 years later when you’re dying of lung cancer. I smoked in my teens and early 20’s, but I’m so glad I stopped. Remember about going back in time and changing things about yourself? I’m pretty sure if you could, you’d tell your younger self to stop.
Eat right and exercise.
Next is one that I would definitely go back and change, but even at 51, it’s not too late. And that’s make a habit of taking care of yourself. Learn to eat right and exercise and make it a priority. You only have one body and it has to carry you through your entire life. Treat it well and it’ll treat you well. This also goes hand in hand with taking care of your skin and fighting off wrinkles and sun damage for as long as possible. Personally, I’ve been using the Tiege Hanley skin care products for like 3 years now. I’m so committed to it that even though I could probably get a few boxes for free, I spend my own money on it every single month. Just like everybody else.
Take care of your skin.
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Work on your relationships.
The next item is working on your relationships and marriages. More than half the population in the US are either married, dating or living with their future spouse by their early 30’s. I heard something once that dating in your 20’s is like musical chairs. Once you hit your mid-30’s, the music stops and everyone finds a chair and starts sitting down. There’s a lot of pressure in your 30’s that you need to have a good job and a good marriage. But don’t make the mistake of marrying the closest chair to you just because the music stopped. Work on your relationship and your marriage before you’re in one by working on yourself. Because you’re responsible for your own happiness. Not anybody else.
Expand your circle of friends.
This brings us to your friends. Break out of your closest circle of friends and expand your circle a bit. Having close friends is terrific, but similar minds limit what they know, who they know, how they speak, where they work and what they think. Think about it, opportunity usually always comes from outside our immediate circle. Try new things, and if you’re able to, visit new places. Network as much as possible because that’s how you meet new people with new opportunities to offer.
Learn how to cook.
This next one I would definitely go back and change, and that’s learning how to cook. Take this one seriously. I’m not saying you need to be a fancy chef, but leaning how to cook more than just a few simple dishes allows you to take care of yourself and be self-sufficient especially when nobody else is around. It’s also impressive to the ladies. Trust me.
Learn your finances.
Next, learn to make a budget and stick to it. Know what you have coming in and what’s going out. Learn how to manage your finances and don’t fall into traps that if you buy the newest thing, that thing will make you happy, because it won’t. Make a habit of saving part of your income every time you get paid. There’s a lot of apps out there that can help you with this so it comes right off the top and you never see it. Before too long, you’ll see a good size savings. This is more important now than ever, especially with everything that’s going on right now. Think about it, there are so many people who are loosing jobs right now and really struggling to pay their bills. Getting in the habit of saving money can literally save your life.
Surround yourself with positive people.
Next up, surround yourself with positive people. Be conscious of who you’re spending time with because you’re the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. Also, stop trying to please everyone. This includes your siblings and your parents. You’re the only one who can truly validate yourself, not anyone else. The sooner you wrap your head around that and live by it, the better off you’ll be.
Be more organized.
Next, be more organized. I don’t necessarily mean obsessively organized, but you should be at a point in life by your 30’s where you’re picking up after yourself. Make your bed every day and don’t leave your clothes all over the place like you did when you were a kid. If you start something, finish it. Don’t rely on anyone else to come in behind you to finish what you started.
Appreciate what and who you have.
Appreciate the small stuff. Learn to appreciate what you have because you never know when it might be gone. That could be your job, your money, your possessions and even the people in your life that are closest to you. Sometimes tomorrow doesn’t come. Life can change in an instant, so be appreciative of what you have and who you have while you still have them.
Last, but not least is think about where you want to be in the next 10-20 years and make sure your behavior maps that. Plans can change and that’s okay, but it’s important to have something you’re working towards. It might seem a little odd, but it makes sense in your 30’s to be mindful of your 40’s and 50’s and where you want to be when you get there. 20 years seems like a long ways away, but trust me, it goes by pretty damn fast.
Really quick, if you’re not yet a subscriber to my YouTube channel, please consider doing that now because the entire premise behind that channel and this website is to prove that it’s never too late and you’re never too old to make a change in your life or start something new. I encourage you to jump on your first order of Tiege Hanley. You’ll be glad you did. Guys, I’ll see you in a few days for a brand new post, but until then, live well, stay healthy and I’ll see you soon.