My name is John and I’m the founder of 40overfashion.com and today I’d like to go over some things that we, as mature guys need to let go of. I’ve been reading a lot of different articles surrounding hitting your 40’s and 50’s, and it inspired me to list out a few things. Now, this list is just my opinion and certainly isn’t the ‘be all end all’ list, so feel free to comment below and share what else you think should be included.
#1 Acknowledge your weaknesses. Everybody has weaknesses, but your strengths in other areas should make up for it. If not, find help or hire someone. Personally, I’m not good at admin stuff like book keeping and taxes. I’m a creative and my strengths are very much in that arena. I find help with other areas to keep this ship afloat.
#2 Fear of the unknown. It’s true, you could have a brain aneurism tomorrow, but you can’t spend your life in fear that it might happen. You have to live your life to the best of your ability, make decisions and move on. Your decisions might not always have the best outcome, but at least you made the decision and stuck by it and didn’t waffle back and forth about it due to fear or what ‘might’ happen.
#3 Jealousy and Envy. This should’ve run its course by now for the most part. There’s nothing to gain by holding on to envy or jealousy. You’re only causing yourself stress and letting whoever you’re envious of have power over you. Take the power back and let go of it.
#4 Insulting people, putting other people down and being an overall jackass. Shaming and name calling should be something you stopped doing after middle school. At this point in your life, you have absolutely zero to gain by putting other people down. Being a bully at 20 looks bad enough, but if you’re still one at 40, it’s time to reevaluate what else is wrong in your life.
#5 Drama in your relationship. At this stage in the game, you should have zero tolerance for drama and no room in your life for it. Game playing, constant fighting and unhealthy bickering have no place in your life. This can only lead to increased stress and unhealthy decisions.
#6 Keeping toxic friends or people in your life. You know those people. The ones that suck all the happiness out of you. They’re always negative, always complaining and always blaming someone else for their situation. Just because they’ve been your friend forever, if they’re too much work or full of negativity every time you see them, it’s time to phase them out of your circle.
#7 Buying everything cheap. With age and experience comes wisdom that with most things, you actually do get what you pay for, and quality comes with a price. I understand the importance of finding good deals on things, but skimping on everything only leads to disappointment and resentment because the thing you bought on the cheap, fell apart and didn’t last.
#8 Not knowing how to flirt. This is for my single friends out there. As you age, you become more comfortable and confident in your own skin. This is very appealing to women, especially younger women who want a man who has his shit figured out. Younger men in their age range are still playing games and trying to figure themselves out, but you’re experienced and have all the qualities women are looking for. Don’t be afraid to start some new conversations, assuming you’re single of course.
#9 Not knowing your way around a woman’s body, or just being an overall bad sexual partner. By this point in your life you’ve most likely had enough experience and hours in the sack to know how everything works. If you’ve been with the same person for a while, you should know exactly what she (or he) wants and how to deliver a satisfying experience. Younger guys, although they might think otherwise, simply haven’t logged the hours like we have to reach expert mode.
#10 Being afraid to ask for what you want. If you want something, ask for it. If it’s a ‘no’, than it’s a ‘no’, but at least you didn’t sit there, not ask and then be consumed with regrets. Once you start actually asking, you’ll find the answer starts becoming ‘yes’.
#11 FOMO – Fear of missing out. This feeling should’ve passed by now. I understand the football game you couldn’t get tickets for or something along those lines, but if you find yourself always feeling like you’re missing out, or other people are having more fun than you are, you gotta let it go. Either that, or change your situation.
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